If So, You May Be Letting Your Fear Of Criticism Rule Your Life

Business, Communication.

What you think of me is none of my business - how often do you hold your tongue and not speak the truth of what you are thinking? Does your creativity get shoved into the box of what you think will please others?

What do you love doing that you haven' t done in a long time? - if so, you may be letting your fear of criticism rule your life. It is easy to try to please everyone all the time. This is one of the key sources of struggle people face. We tend to moderate our words, and look over, our actions our shoulder to see who' s watching. When we' re caught up with what we' re supposed to do we tend to stifle our energy and enthusiasm for whatever project we' re pursuing. Actually pleasing everyone all the time is actually a losing battle!

When we trust our actions and choices, we see that everything gets easier and we' re in the flow of the work. - our energy is not bolstered when others applaud us and deflated when others have a negative reaction to what we' ve said or done. There is more consistent energy. This is contrary to how many of us were raised. There was a right and wrong way for every project to be completed. We were supposed to listen to how things were to be done and do our best to copy that.

Rarely were our personality styles considered as to what method would work best for us to approach any situation. - i remember when i first heard this title. Terry Cole - Whitaker wrote the book titled, What You Think Of Me Is None Of My Business. Over the years it has come to mean more to me as I' ve realized the peace that can come from letting go of need for love and approval for everything I do. This may have been the message of our childhood. Is this selfish to put our OWN approval above others' approval? When we have healthy self - love we are able to be comfortable with what we are doing and are able to accept that others may have their own way to complete a task as well.

HOW CAN YOU CHANGE YOUR HABIT OF PLEASING OTHERS? - our self - care is essential for us to be a fully engaged individual in any situation, whether it is a personal relationship or a business project. It first takes the decision that you are going to live life for yourself. On the contrary, you will value and respect them more than ever. This isn' t to say you are not being considerate of others. Then make a conscious effort to speak the truth, no matter what.

This only makes connecting more difficult and awkward. - how often to we filter our words carefully to avoid offending anyone? It is really pretty obvious when a person is not being authentic. This process will not happen in just a few leaps and bounds. You are not doing anyone a favor by not being real. Small steps are the most effective way to make any change. Give yourself a moment before speaking to check how authentically you are about to respond.

You have to be comfortable with what you are doing to have this be a smooth process. - speaking the truth does not mean that you have to fully disclose all of your thoughts. Healthy boundaries for your privacy are appropriate. That isn' t necessary. And, realize that some people in your life may not be comfortable with your honesty. How would your life be different if you were living congruently with your ideas and values?

They are probably not people who are adding positive energy to you anyway. - how would your relationships be enriched by being all of who you are? How would your productivity be affected?